Why Women go for an Extra Marital Affair??

Reasons why women go for extra marital affairs:-

"My marriage is not bad enough to Leave but not good enough to be Happy"

Women are considered as more emotional than men.  They are full of feelings and desires.  For a woman Love, Marriage and Affair, everything is directly connected to her heart and its feelings.  During a survey it is found that most of the women go for extra marital affairs during the age between 30-40.  The women survey described their affairs as "fun," "casual," "a chance to know someone," or "just an affair."

Women are usually insightful about their affairs, knowing exactly why they want a lover.

So why a woman cheats??

Women who step out on a husband or significant other – male. She does it so for any number of reasons, the five most common of which are listed below:-

1. She wants to improve self – esteem: - In India, in a married relationship a woman hardly gets attention from her husband & being treated like a crap all day. She is desired by her husband only when he wants sex at night, in which she isn't interested in. Because, for a woman emotions and sex are correlated. She can’t be interested in 'feeling less sex'.

Woman also wants respect and love from her husband. On the other side she enjoys the attention paid to her and compliments about her abilities as well as her body in an extra marital affair. Women have affairs for their own emotional gratification. They say their affairs enhance their self-esteem by giving them positive feedback, both physically and emotionally.

2. She feels loneliness / under appreciated/neglected or ignored: - Indian woman plays many roles whether she’s a working woman or a housewife. Everyone expects that she’ll fulfill all demands of the entire family, and a woman also tries to give her best too but unfortunately when it comes to her expectations and choices no one even bothers to pay attention. 

Sometimes rude behavior of her husband also molds her mind to go for other options to overcome her loneliness. As she desires emotional closeness and intimacy.  She needs someone to talk with who will listen to her.

3. She want to feel younger and sexier: - Every woman is afraid of getting old, getting wrinkles and signs of aging is a heart break.  Every woman wants herself to be more voluptuous in front of her lover while getting physically intimate. In routine sex life with husband she is not able to fulfill her desires.

Whereas in an affair she feels more desirable and playful, she feels younger and sexier. This feeling gives her energy and love herself as a person.

4. She has less bonding: - The sex is good, but there's no emotional bonding. In bed, he knows what to say and do to cause her to feel sweet sensations all over. But outside of bed he's cold, demeaning and inconsiderate of her feelings. He's a good lover, but not a good husband and partner.

So woman gets emotionally connected to someone else who understands her in a better way.

5. She craves intimacy: - More so than men, women feel valued and connected to their relationship partner through non-sexual emotional interaction such as Touching, Kissing, Cuddling, and Gift-Giving, being remembered, and most of all meaningful communication. Women who aren't getting their intimacy needs met by a primary partner may look elsewhere, trying to meet those needs through sexual/romantic relationships.

In truth, some women cheat because they receive little sex or physical intimacy from their spouse. After all, healthy adult women enjoy the physical act of sex as much as men do. For these women, going outside the relationship for sex may be a logical, even healthy answer. That said, women also enjoy the feelings of being wanted, needed, and desired that partner-sexuality can evoke, and a woman is more likely to break her vow of monogamy because she's seeking this type of emotional connection than for purely sexual reasons.

Why Women decrease their Libido at 40s?

A survey shows that the majority of men think about sex more, at least twice a day. But on the other side only one quarter women said that they think about it that frequently. So at this age both men and women fantasize less but women fantasize lesser than men.

Men want sex more avidly at this age than women. One of my friend he often raise this matter openly that his wife has lost her interest in sex at all. Sometime being friend we use to crack jocks on him but it’s true. And I was sure about it that something is really there which we are not able to figure it out.  So I wanted to know why it is happening with women. So I talked to many women of similar age group and concluded their views about it ………. ………all men…….. have a look………….....................

“Changes in our life style can also be one of the reasons of losing Libido. Sometimes it's the other way around, when stress from work, children, birth control come along, and libido goes out of the window.”

“What men rarely understand is that they want sex often and steadily, whereas women, tend to be most interested during the time they are fertile, which is about 5 days per month. You can see how there is a bit of a mismatch.”

“Well...most of us don't. But sometimes our husbands treat us like crap all day and then want sex at night, which we usually aren't interested in, and then we get blamed for losing interest.”

“ Sex for a women is connected with their heart , after so many years of marriage we start taking each other otherwise, there is no fun, after having kids, I am out of shape may be my husband lost interest in loving me, he only calls me when he need sex, otherwise…???”

“May be our Indian Male Dominating Society can be a major reason of it where women are always busy no matter that they are housewives or working, for them no Sundays, no holidays, nothing. So how can we think about sex after a long tiring day”.

So with the conclusion of some of the views of women, who admitted that they show less interest in sex with their husbands. Now responsibilities come on men if they want their wives as horny as they were right after the marriage or as a girlfriend. So they also have to take some initiative towards it.

Make her feel beautiful and loved, help her escape from her everyday life, make it exciting and different. May be you can go for another honeymoon…and improve your relationship rather complaining about it.