Reasons why women go for extra marital affairs:-
"My marriage is not bad enough to Leave but not good enough to be Happy"
Women are considered as more
emotional than men. They are full of
feelings and desires. For a woman Love, Marriage and Affair, everything is directly connected to her heart and its
feelings. During a survey it is found
that most of the women go for extra marital affairs during the age between 30-40. The women survey described
their affairs as "fun,"
"casual," "a chance to know someone," or "just an
affair."
Women are usually insightful
about their affairs, knowing exactly why they want a lover.
So why a woman cheats??
Women who step out on a husband
or significant other – male. She does it so for any number of reasons, the five
most common of which are listed below:-
1. She wants to improve self – esteem: - In India, in a married relationship a woman hardly gets
attention from her husband & being treated like a crap all day. She is desired by her husband only when he
wants sex at night, in which she isn't interested in. Because, for a woman
emotions and sex are correlated. She can’t be interested in 'feeling less sex'.
Woman also wants respect and
love from her husband. On the other side she enjoys the attention paid to her
and compliments about her abilities as well as her body in an extra marital
affair. Women have affairs for their own emotional gratification. They say
their affairs enhance their self-esteem by giving them positive feedback, both
physically and emotionally.
2. She
feels loneliness / under appreciated/neglected or ignored: - Indian woman plays many roles whether she’s a working
woman or a housewife. Everyone expects that she’ll fulfill all demands of the
entire family, and a woman also tries to give her best too but unfortunately
when it comes to her expectations and choices no one even bothers to pay
attention.
Sometimes rude behavior of her
husband also molds her mind to go for other options to overcome her loneliness.
As she desires emotional closeness and intimacy. She needs someone to talk with who will
listen to her.
3. She want to feel younger and sexier: - Every woman is afraid of getting old, getting wrinkles and
signs of aging is a heart break. Every
woman wants herself to be more voluptuous in front of her lover while getting
physically intimate. In routine sex life with husband she is not able to
fulfill her desires.
Whereas in an affair she feels
more desirable and playful, she feels younger and sexier. This feeling gives
her energy and love herself as a person.
4. She has less bonding: -
The sex is good, but there's no emotional bonding. In bed, he knows what to say
and do to cause her to feel sweet sensations all over. But outside of bed he's
cold, demeaning and inconsiderate of her feelings. He's a good lover, but not a
good husband and partner.
So woman gets emotionally
connected to someone else who understands her in a better way.
5. She craves intimacy:
- More so than men, women feel valued and connected to their relationship
partner through non-sexual emotional interaction such as Touching, Kissing, Cuddling, and Gift-Giving, being remembered, and most of all meaningful
communication. Women who aren't getting their intimacy needs met by a primary
partner may look elsewhere, trying to meet those needs through sexual/romantic
relationships.
In truth, some women cheat
because they receive little sex or physical intimacy from their spouse. After
all, healthy adult women enjoy the physical act of sex as much as men do. For
these women, going outside the relationship for sex may be a logical, even healthy
answer. That said, women also enjoy the feelings of being wanted, needed, and
desired that partner-sexuality can evoke, and a woman is more likely to break
her vow of monogamy because she's seeking this type of emotional connection
than for purely sexual reasons.
